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Hard Choices

The last few weeks were full of hard choices, self-made choices, and choices made by others for me.

I had nothing, I used to have it almost all – I am not talking about money here – and then in the blink of an eye everything turned into nothing. When you feel things are slipping away, you need to turn “slipping away” into something - and fast. So how did I opt back in ?

This was by looking in a mirror and making choices – tough choices. What I saw was a flawed men and a lost character. What do desperate people do, they shake every tree until an apple falls. The trees I shook bore no fruit, so I shook harder.

It felt lately I shook the all the fruit trees in the world and still didn’t have any success. I tried it private and business. I didn’t get the responses I want. A person close to me helped me to look deeper and sit in the pain and helped me make the choices.

And just when I thought my dad got his third Tia, my “all” didn’t respond back at all what I want & our latest offer on funding felt though again. One of them fell through, one apple felt..

What choices did I make and how did I make these choices?

Let’s say there is a challenging decision you will have to make soon.

You could choose to marry a person or not, or you could choose between two people at your firm- as you can’t keep them both -  or between the city and the country as your place of residence. And if you made choices based on the past and all has changed.

Do you want to choose to live on the countryside and then decide options if you want to whether to start a family, do you let an elderly parent move in with you – who you actually don’t have a good connection with , or decide to have faith and let things come your way?

Most likely, the difficult decision you considered involved something significant, important, or important to you. Making difficult decisions seems to be accompanied by agony, hand wringing, and gritting of teeth. But I believe that we have a misunderstanding of the importance of difficult decisions in our life. Understanding difficult decisions reveals a secret strength that each of us possesses.

A decision is tough because of how the possibilities are related to one another. Any straightforward choice has a better alternative than the other. When making a difficult choice, one option is greater in certain ways while the other is superior in others, and neither option is superior to the other entirely. You are torn between staying in your current position in the city or leaving for a more encouraging life in the countryside but then as a men you might stay alone.

Although each choice has advantages and disadvantages, neither is ultimately better than the other.

My choices have been troubled lately but are now getting clear. When you can’t control life, life will control you.

So MLK will open a second office in DC in the next month as our next chapter will be there… Whilst we need to work hard to get things in order in the UK this is for sure a new chapter of the company.

We have – by no choice – let go of two great people but circumstances didn’t allow it – sadly. Funding and support came from the strangest places, and I never anticipated that.

My book got an amazing deal finally and I had the courage to finish it.

And I will start living at the rock.. This all happened because life made choices for me.. I still do want this company to succeed and ideally a family, but life sometimes throws a curveball.

Is this the right place, is DC the best place … We will find out... It is far from what I envisioned last year..

London will still be “home” I have my own little family and are working out; I am growing and joined a club of men to have a bit of commonality with. Is it fun.. No ..

not always at least. And a big part of my dream – a family – isn’t anywhere nearby. But let’s embrace it.. Sometimes you need to let loose, and hope life will throw something unexpected back.

 Enjoy the possibilities it brings.  keep on shaking the trees.

Thank you al – Simon, Christian, Louisa, Karen, Dan and many more

Let’s all shake the tree a bit harder..